Don’t Get Attached To People Who Ignore You

Sometimes we are so blind that we don’t see that we are being manipulated by others into using us to their advantage.

In today’s article we want to give you some good life advice : Don’t get attached to people who ignore you !

The more one person is ignored by another, the more the former is interested in the latter. At least that’s what you hear over and over and sometimes that’s true.

Some people like the game of cat and mouse, but what happens when it leads to great suffering?

Some run after the very people who keep disappearing and ignoring them. Those who show no interest, but when they come back, you feel relieved and become even more attached to that person.

Be careful and open your eyes! It can be a classic case of emotional manipulation. So you better not get attached to people who ignore you.

Stop fooling yourself

If you like someone, you may be fooling yourself:  You suddenly see gestures that you interpret exactly as you would like or need them.

This will fuel your belief that this person who you are strongly attracted to likes and cares about you wants to relate to you … but people who ignore you will continue to do so.

Don’t jump to conclusions. You want to see it that way, but try to look at the situation from a realistic point of view.

• The person will only contact you if they want something from you,  otherwise they will not give any signs of life. She just uses you.

• The person canceled a meeting with you to go on a date with their friends or to do something else, so they don’t like you the way you think or want.
• The person just let you stand, so you aren’t that important to them, they didn’t even feel it necessary to say goodbye to you.

Maybe you justify these situations with sentences like “he needs his space”, “he doesn’t want to feel crushed” or “he is very independent” …

Take the bandage off your eyes: people who ignore you are not worth it!

It’s time  you took the bandage off your eyes to see reality for what it is. The first thing you should realize is that you are not dependent on this person.

The need to be by that person’s side, to be important to them, leads to the fact that you accept things that you would advise against any friend.

So the moment has come to observe the situation and analyze everything.

That way you can open your eyes and see clarity.

You are confused by this person’s words and actions

Have you ever tried to talk to this person about your feelings, about those thoughts that are eating away at you from within? Or did you tell her how much you love her.

There is usually no opportunity for this in this situation,  because the person does everything possible to steer conversations in a different direction.

But sometimes she says words that surprise you. “I like you”, “you are unique” …  That confuses you and makes the game of cat and mouse even more attractive for you.

Tenderness when he wants

You also need tenderness, but you don’t get it when you need it. This only happens when the other person wants it.

You should be on your guard. If he gets very affectionate when you get angry,  it is possible that he just wants to manipulate you so as not to lose you. 

You feel insecure

Good people give you security. If exactly the opposite is the case,  you might want to back off.

You may feel safe when you are with this person, you feel good, happy, content, cheerful …

However, once you express your feelings or think about how confusing the things he is telling you, the reality is very different.

He doesn’t speak clearly, doesn’t say what he wants or doesn’t know and that leads to great uncertainty for you.

He doesn’t like you to take the initiative

We come back to the subject of appointments. You may have realized  that when you want to meet him, he is just making excuses. 

But what if he wants to see you? Then the situation changes, he doesn’t like it when you take the initiative.

The uncertainty may be appealing, but only until it starts to hurt. 

It is therefore necessary to speak clearly to the other person and not allow the other person to play with you.

Sometimes the guilt lies with yourself. You don’t want to see him ignore you, that he doesn’t care about you, and that he just uses you.

But the question now is …  Do you want to see reality or turn your back on it?